Je bent lang met die ander geweest. Maar nu weet je het niet meer. Soms snap je niet waarom je ooit aan de relatie begon en waarom je hem (of haar) ooit zo bijzonder vond. Dan twijfel je weer en vind je het te zielig om hem in de steek te laten. The Huffington Post plaatste een test van de psycholoog dr. Rand. De test laat je zien wat je vindt en wat je dus moet doen. Add up your scores. If they are: You are still committed to this person and should try to work your relationship out You are wavering in your commitment but still find enough in the relationship to wonder if you should let it go yet You are seriously concerned that this relationship may not have a chance You are holding on by a thread You have already left the relationship in your own mind
- Would you feel more relief than sadness if you ended the relationship? ______
- Are you focusing more on what is wrong now than what you loved in the past? ______
- Have you sold your partner short by not reaching out and sharing your feelings? ______
- Are you absolutely sure that your unhappiness is due to your relationship? ______
- Have you turned away your partner's attempts to care for you? ______
- Have you been withholding your own caring? ______
- Have you made your partner a less important priority in your life? ______
- Have you stopped putting energy into the relationship? ______
- Have you turned away your partner's desire to make the relationship better? ______
- Have you knowingly kept your partner from what you are feeling? ______
- Are you feeling more alive and energetic away from your partner? _____
- Do you find yourself more easily and quickly irritated with your partner? _____
- Have you begun sharing private things you don't like about your partner with others? _____
- Are you tired of trying to make things better? _____
- Do you find yourself more often wishing you were free of the relationship? _____